Helping women through motherhood learn how to find themselves.
I understand life can be messy and out of balance. I am here to help you chart your course.
One day you’re your own person and the next day you have a baby who needs you 24/7. Your needs seem to be put on the backburner and you suddenly find yourself lonely. You had all these dreams of what Motherhood will feel like and then your baby comes out and suddenly stuff becomes real. You may not feel bonded to baby and your whole system is in shock. Suddenly sleep is hard to come by, eating a nutritional diet is difficult, and your getting use to nursing (or the idea that nursing may not work). Everything makes you feel guilty and other moms can be shaming. You tend to compare your insides with someone’s outside. They seem like they have it all together and you feel like you’re barely making it. Talking about it with other moms makes you feel exposed and leaves you open to feeling judged.
Your whole life has CHANGED and you’re struggling to adapt. You find that your body looks different, your friendships have changed, and you no longer feel like your own person. Along with all the other changes you feel like it’s harder to connect with your spouse and you tend to argue more. These changes can create feelings of loneliness and isolation or anxiety and fear.
So you find yourself both disconnected with baby and your spouse and that’s an extremely lonely feeling.
I remember my early days of Motherhood and feeling so disconnected from my husband and not knowing how to connect again. I struggled with feeling disconnected from my baby, because it’s so much take and no give in return especially in the early days.
Finding a support system is always my number 1 recommendation. However, it’s hard to do so when getting out of the house is difficult and you feel so disconnected with yourself. In therapy working on learning who you’re as a mom and an individual is so important to the outcome of therapy.
Hello I’m Rebecca Trent and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family therapy. I know that coming to therapy can be a difficult step for people especially when you’re the one who is typically the caretaker. Through therapy I’ll help you with learning that it’s okay to allow someone to care for you and your emotions. I know it can feel easy to feel guilty for taking care of yourself and I’m here to help you re-write those ways of thinking and creating alternative ways of viewing self-care and self-love.